Grief is the painful adjustment we all have to make when we lose something or something goes wrong or threatens us. We must adapt when a loved one dies, when we have received bad news about our health, if we lose a job or if we are rejected. The losses we suffer are natural or necessary losses. Since big or small things go wrong in our lives every day and we are going through a painful time, realizing our pain, we regret the loss of our lives. Grief is a strong emotion and a reaction to loss.
Everyone suffers losses in life. Children naturally experience a loss of security when they enter school or move to a new area. The loss of a pet is the first experience of the death of a child. The loss may be the result of what does not happen, your parents do not show up for your degree or you never say that you are loved. When your parents do not protect you from abuse, it is also a loss.
The grieving process is a chain of events and feelings. The stages through which each person grieves are shock, denial, anger, depression, negotiation and finally resolution and acceptance. The duel always begins with the loss and, from this loss, people enter a state of chronic emotional shock and go directly to denial.
Anger is a natural response to loss. In a state of shock and denial, most people find it difficult to recognize and express their anger. For others, anger is their only safe place.
Sadness is another part of the grieving process. This is where many people get stuck. The pain of loss, underground anger and sadness go to depression. The depression is temporary and reabsorbs itself, but if it does not hang up to the point of depression, it will not be able to enter the next phase of the negotiations, where the person will try to find an explanation that makes the situation different. what it really is
The last stage of the grieving process, the ultimate goal from the beginning is forgiveness, resolution or acceptance. At this stage of acceptance, one must be prepared to tolerate all the pain and emotions associated with the previous steps.
A person can move from anger to negotiation to deny everything in one day. The most important thing is to continue feeling the emotions and crossing them towards acceptance.
A person can be trapped for a certain period of time at one stage or another or enter and exit the five steps several times. If you get caught there, that person needs the advice of a counselor.
Once we understand grief as a natural and normal process, we can be patient with others who are trying to recover from their losses.
There are so many feelings and emotions that you can expect when you experience a significant loss, some of which are anger, panic, fear and pain. Believe that you are not going crazy, although you may feel that you are doing it. You are in mourning, you are in mourning and everything you feel is part of this process. It is not a punishment from God, it is not an end and it can also be a beginning.
He thinks the day will come when you will begin to see hope again. You can survive You may think that being alone will decrease the pain, but this is rarely the case. Here are some tips that can help you manage a loved one at this difficult time or yourself.
If necessary, talk about your loss. You may think that it is better to avoid talking about it because you feel uncomfortable, but what you need, or others, is to talk about your pain. If you support a friend in the duel, be a good listener. If you mourn, just sit down with your loved ones and talk about it. Check often by phone or email. Support them nonverbally, hug them, listen to them or sit quietly with them. Just knowing you’re here can help.
Do not reject his pain. Share your own experience with the loss. If they need help, work a little for them. pick up children at school, wash clothes, buy food, take care of pets.
Ask yourself what you have learned from this experience. You can learn to appreciate more every day because you know how unpredictable life is.